Before launching Reset, I worked with dozens of coaching clients and spent years as a management consultant helping organisations navigate complex change. The Reset Program was refined through a pilot group before its public release and continues to evolve through real participant experience.

My work is not about fixing people. It is about helping them recognise the patterns that once protected them, develop the skills they were never taught, and create a life that feels genuinely their own.

Many people function well long before they feel fully connected to themselves. They think clearly. They perform. They carry responsibility. But under pressure, old patterns take over. Fear sharpens. Perfectionism tightens. People-pleasing overrides preference. Insight alone rarely changes this.

I know this from my own experience. I grew up in an environment shaped by unprocessed trauma and learned early to anticipate, adapt, and take responsibility. Hypervigilance, over-responsibility, and people-pleasing became normal. For years I carried those patterns into relationships and work without fully recognising them for what they were. I thought it was simply who I was. When it's the water you've swum in your whole life, you don't recognise it as water. These patterns were never flaws. They were intelligent adaptations — ways of staying safe, loved, and in control in an environment that required it. They worked, until they didn't.

Then my body forced me to pay attention. What followed was gradual and nonlinear. Psychotherapy, somatic work, meditation, yoga, radical honesty, and psychedelic-assisted insight all played a part. So did formal training in psychology and coaching. But underneath all of it was something simpler. I was searching for meaning. I had spent much of my life living from my head — performing, managing, achieving — while somewhere underneath, I was hungry for more depth, more connection, and work that truly felt like mine. Learning to want what I actually wanted took longer than I expected. I had to give myself permission to dream again.

Over time, what changed was not that life became easy. It was that I became more grounded in myself — more willing to listen to my body, more honest about my emotions, and more intentional about how I wanted to live. Living with chronic illness deepened that lesson. It required me to practise the very skills I now teach: listening to my body, respecting limits, staying connected to myself under stress, and making choices aligned with what matters most. That is what I bring to this work. And it is what I see in the people I work with. Behind all the performing, adapting, striving, and self-improvement is not something broken that needs fixing. It is a person who has learned patterns that once made sense and is now ready to choose something different.

Why I Created The Reset Society

As a coach, I kept meeting intelligent, self-aware people who understood their patterns but still felt stuck. They had read the books. They had listened to the podcasts. Many had been in therapy or coaching. Yet they still found themselves repeating the same relationship dynamics, abandoning promises to themselves, struggling with boundaries, overthinking decisions, or disconnecting from what they genuinely wanted. I recognised myself in many of them.

I created The Reset Society because I couldn't find a program that brought together everything that had mattered most in my own growth. Something psychologically rigorous and trauma-informed. Something that understood the nervous system and the adaptive patterns people develop to survive difficult environments. But also something that looked forward rather than backward. Most programs ask how you got here. Reset asks how you want to live now.

A program that holds both the depth and the dream.

— Debby